Tuesday, September 18, 2012

And now you are six... and one half.

When Amalia turned six, I left a card for her on the morning of her birthday, with A.A.Milne's short poem "Now we are six". I had been looking forward to her sixth birthday so I could give it to her. It is simple, but it made her feel she had reached a new, more important, more aware stage.

Recently I introduced the concept of half birthdays. Mainly just to have another reason to bake a small cake and celebrate something, something positive; To create traditions and memories. To cement and anchor her... hopefully.

We will, later this week, celebrate the equinox and welcome Spring.

This week we had independence day celebrations here in Chile, probably the biggest holiday of the year. She has a whole week off school!

My girl is growing and everyday I try my best to nurture and guide her, and always show her my love and support by listening.

We narrowly missed the acquisition of Monster High dolls recently; She was shown the movie Spiderman 2 at a recent playdate, to my dismay. All I think to do is to give her as much as I can by encouraging the roller skating, the kite flying, the mud pie making,  and all other activities I prefer she engages in.

My girl.

How we spent independence day below.

Tuesday, August 7, 2012

When are monsters not monsters, but social acceptance aids.

My daughter is on a quest: she is seriously lobbying for a Monster High doll. She has asked and asked, and I have hummed and mumbled my half-baked replies: We will see; Maybe; Let’s think about it.

And it is true I am on the fence about it. On one hand I really dislike these dolls. They are hideous in my eyes, but that is not the point, as they are not to be my dolls. I see them as promoting early sexualization of young girls by displaying their vamp make-up and sexy clothing. But is there real evidence of this? I see them as having no other message other than “don’t I look cool and don’t I know it?”. They are expensive. And my daughter does not even play with dolls that much.  So why does she really, really want a Monster Height doll? (She pronounces height, I tell her it is high, she tells me height is how her friends call them, so I say ok, height it is)

Which leads me to why she really wants one:  her friends have them. The other day on the playground, as she sat on the swing set with another girl, I overhead the conversation, which basically consisted of this girl, around five years old, describing all the different Monster High dolls and accessories she owns. Two little girls side by side swinging away, yet proficient on the intricacies of  Monster High dolls taxonomy (each is the daughter of a different kind of monster, like vampire, Frankenstein, werewolf, etc). Also she has told me one of her classmates in school brings her dolls to school.  These dolls are a conundrum to me in that they are about high school sexy girls, not kindergarteners, yet they are dolls and as such marketed to this age, as high-schoolers are not playing with dolls at all.

We sat down and made a list of benefits and drawbacks of monster high dolls. She tells me on the plus side they look cool and they are not real (counteracting my argument that they may add to her fear of monsters). On the minus side she came up with the fact they sleep with monsters while on vacation. I am not sure what this means, but it is something she has heard, and I am really not analyzing that piece of information. I do not want to read too much into it. I have told her they are expensive, and that I really do not like them. She answered by telling me not to buy the one with pointy teeth (she is the scariest according to her) and can I please “accept this and just buy me one?” She is getting good at rational argument, I think. I tell her it is ok not to like what other people like, and that even grown-ups get sucked up into buying things just because other people like them. She says it is ok I do not like them, she does and that is more important. I tried to explain to her about peer pressure and how companies pay a lot of money to put ads on TV so kids will want to buy their toys. She may not care or understand this.  

Which brings me to more important points which I have to rethink: We don’t watch TV in our home. We hadn’t own a set since 2009 until recently, and had been TV-less more or less since 2004. A few months ago a visiting family member brought her own set and left it behind. People think it is very odd we don’t watch TV, and while I had more than one friend without a TV when we lived in the US, here in Chile it is a serious anomaly. I have been asked if it a religious taboo, and have been told I am depriving my children. We kept the TV in the guest bedroom until the Olympics started and I have to say it came in handy to watch the competition. It will go back into the guest room when it is over though. But, of course she is exposed to TV and cable channels when she visits friends. So watches ads and knows what is hot. Media exposure is not a topic that is discussed much here.

Today we will go to the store and check these dolls out. I am planning on using my bargain powers to persuade her to change her mind. I know I have final say in what she gets, as she still has no autonomy to get her own toys, but a question my husband asked last night keeps resonating in my head: “Why do you insist on making her the odd one out?” He thinks I am not doing enough to help her fit in, and it is true that she stands out in more than one way, but I cannot just surrender all my values so she will fit in better: She is the girl with the short hair, the only little girl with short hair for many miles.  She was asked recently why she has boy hair. She is the kid with the whole grain bread sandwiches, and she will remain so! She is the child who does not like soda.

Little by little she is growing up and her peers’ influence is becoming stronger. I am still unsure what to do about these silly dolls. My guess is that she will get one, she will tell all her key friends she has one, and the doll itself will get drown in the sea of toys in her room. 

Thursday, August 2, 2012


Z, from The Crafty Doula / Motheeer!, has sent me the most darling package of goodies! A little house, that I was planning to use as a pin cushion, but my daughter has claimed it as too cute; a lavender sachet in what appears to be Japanese print fabric; and a lovely lined pouch with a wood button, in what I am guessing is Portuguese chita. Z, let me know how far off I am in my guesses!
Thank you for your generosity!

Tuesday, May 15, 2012

Felicity the doll

A little boy was made very happy today with a surprise beautiful new baby doll all for himself, thanks to Julia and Laura at Windfall Dolls!

Thursday, May 10, 2012

Biting my tongue

Overhead conversation between Amalia and her friend while sitting at our dining room table coloring:

Friend: Is that drawing you are making for me?
Amalia: Yes!
Friend: Why do you always draw pictures for me?
Amalia: Because I love you very much!
Friend, with annoyance: Well, I find it very boring when you give me your drawings!

My heart ached, but I bit my tongue. I know it hurt Amalia's feelings, but at the same time I thought it was inappropriate to butt in. I did later tell her that she could draw me as many pictures as she wishes, that I love them.
She is such a sweet girl that takes these hits quietly without a riposte, or even a feeble comeback, and I worry.

Wednesday, May 2, 2012

Barn animals, pillowcases and seagulls.

I won one of the giveaways hosted by Sew, Mama, Sew! back in December. Wonderful Crystal sent me a package brimming with goodies, including her pillowcases. Thank you Crystal!

Also I received my order from FatQuarterShop which made me very happy, as a bunch of babies are being born soon, and I am busy planning quilts for the little guys.

Also, there are now two seagulls hovering above my dining room table courtesy of the printable posted by Stella from The Golden Adventures of a Very Dark Horse today. I love putting little whimsical things around the house to surprise the kids. They love it and it makes me happy.
The baby is into all things that fly, birds and airplanes mostly, so he loved these seagulls, and talked to them a lot during lunch.

Thursday, April 19, 2012

Scandinavian Stitches

I am in love with this book

Scandinavian Stitches: 21 Playful Projects with Seasonal Flair by Kajsa Wikman.

Scandinavian Stitches: 21 Playful Projects with Seasonal Flair

Never have I bookmarked so many projects from a single book.

Here is her Etsy store.